An Addict Dilemma@

Hello Artina. Thank you for the comment and for following our site. I read your comment several days ago and wanted to think before responding. Before I begin I want to ask, “HOW ARE YOU?” What I’m going to say maybe shocking to you. The most important thing to do when dealing with a partner, family member, or friend is to “TAKE CARE OF YOU first.” I’m not sure if you have read any of the actual articles. But if you are dealing with someone with an addiction you will know that a symptom of a larger problem is caused by trauma. Most people aren’t aware of why and what caused or causing them to self-medicate. There are some really great YouTube videos that I have learned so much from such as: Put the Shovel down.” This one is great for those involved with someone who’s dealing with an individual with issues. I like the ones that tell you how to take care of yourself and how to set boundaries, along with how to help the other person. Then there is Dr. Gabor Mate’ who really breakdown how childhood trauma affects a person. It helps you to really understand the mental health behind addictions. Another source that I recommend is the book -“What Happened To You,” by Orpha and Dr. Bruce Perry. The book to me cosigned what Dr. Mate’ teaches. Now to your friend. . . . there is nothing YOU can do to change him/her. That person has to WANT the change and take the steps to make the change. I want you to also understand that part of recovery is relapse, just as long as he/she gets back on the saddle right away they have a chance. Whatever town you are in look for a recovery center that has recovery people working in them and has been clean for a time, then your friend can get the support he/she needs. Back to what I started with. “How Are You?” As long as you are happy, safe, and LIVING your life is the most important help you can be. Please check out the videos and follow the sound advice. Take Care, and let me know how things are going. DeVine